Becoming a dad changed the way I think about strength. As a former GB international 800m athlete, I was used to pushing through pain and always showing up physically strong. But my career ended suddenly at 21 due to a misdiagnosed injury. Overnight, I lost everything, my career, sponsorships, and direction. I was left in limbo, trying to piece my life back together.
There was little support, and I know that for many, moments like that can lead to a downward spiral. I was fortunate to have a strong mindset, but I also realise now that I kept a lot to myself. Back then, asking for help wasn’t something we really did.
At 25, I decided to take control. I retrained as a sports massage therapist, driven by a desire to help others recover, rebuild, and get back on their feet, something I wish I’d had more of during my own journey.
Meeting my fiancé Jodie changed everything, and now, as a dad to my son Sebastian, I’ve found a whole new meaning to life.
The transition into fatherhood felt more natural than I expected. There was a sense of calm, excitement, and purpose, and I felt like I took to it straight away. But alongside that, there are still moments of pressure that come with wanting to get everything right and be the best I can be for him.
It’s made me realise that real strength isn’t about holding everything in. It’s about being open, speaking up, and allowing yourself to be supported.
Connection has played a huge role in that, through family, friends, and communities like Leeds Dads. Being around other dads, sharing experiences, and knowing you’re not alone makes a massive difference.
Nothing I achieved in sport compares to being Sebastian’s dad. My focus now is to be someone he can rely on, but also to show him that it’s ok to not be ok, and that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
If I can be even half the father mine has been to me, then I know I’m doing something right.